Thursday, February 17, 2011

Butt Loving, or A Happy Anus is a Healthy Anus

Anal sex is a pleasurable sexual act for many individuals, but often people are not sure how they might go about doin’ (anal sex) well. Of course, anal sex requires equal parts lube and communication between partners. For good anal sex, it also means keeping your anus healthy and clean. Nobody wants a shitty bottom, so this week, Doin’ It Well wanted to offer some tips and resources for a sexy sphincter.

Back Door Explorers

Anal sex is the penetration – with fingers, penis, or penis-shaped object – of the anus and into the rectum. The anus is the entry to the rectum; it’s about two inches long and surrounded by two rings of muscles: the external sphincter and the internal sphincter. The external sphincter can be controlled at will, whereas the internal sphincter is an involuntary muscle. The rectum is the canal inside the body and is about eight inches in length. Because the anus doesn’t produce lubrication like the vagina, it is important to use lots of lube to minimize tearing and to always wear a condom.

What Goes In, Comes Out

Let’s face it, everybody poops. But what and how we poop is about what we’re eating and how healthy we are. If you eat a bunch of greasy food before bottoming in anal sex, chances are everyone might get messy.  So diet can be important to keeping a healthy and clean anus.

A regular diet that’s high in fiber like fruits, veggies, and unprocessed grains and drinking plenty of water produces regular movements that keep you running like clockwork. Also, eating can stimulate the digestion process (i.e., shit!), so stop eating a couple hours before having sex to keep things clear.

Cleanliness is Sexiness

Unless you’ve really got to go, the rectum doesn’t store feces. But of course there will be some danglers. But never fear, there are many ways to keep your chute clean. First, clear your bowels. You can also lightly soap a washcloth, and wash both the inside of the anus/rectum (using your fingers) and also to the outside.

Anal sex can sometimes stimulate a bowel movement, so some people prefer enemas. Enemas are basically fluid inserted into the anus, which triggers a bowel movement and “cleans out” the rectum. Commercial enemas have a chemical that reacts in the rectum to create a bowel movement, but an enema bag simply uses water to create the same reaction. Instructions frequently suggest to “hold” the enema inside briefly by contracting the anal sphincter. For a simple cleaning of the rectum, you don’t need to retain the fluid in the rectum, but simply insert and release (some call it “douching”). Give yourself a few hours before engaging in anal sex and wash afterwards.

Be careful about over-using enemas; overuse can cause your body to lose important fluids, which can create a chemical imbalance. Pay attention to your fluids, and consult your doctor.

If you need to go, you need to go. Sometimes we may be sick, have a meal that doesn’t sit well with us, or, frankly, not have two hours advance notice before the sexual opportunity presents itself. Talk with your partner if you get the feeling. If there’s an accident, be forgiving of yourself and your partner.  Remember, shit happens.

We Also Heart Dan Savage

Dan Savage, author of the sex column Savage Love, has coined a number of helpful terms about anal sex, and we have to say, “Thanks!” When former Senator Rick Santorum made some homophobic remarks, Dan Savage asked his readers to give “santorum” an appropriate sexual reference (see below for the creative naming). Dan also coined the term “pegging,” to refer to woman anally penetrating a man. Hats off (and condoms on) to Dan Savage!

Bottom Condoms

The Reality Female Condom can be inserted for anal sex and can be inserted ahead of time. So-called “female” condoms can be worn during sex to provide a polyurethane barrier that prevents STI transmission and pregnancy in women. But although these can be used during anal sex, the marketers of this condom don’t promote it. (Homophobia, anyone?) Want to take charge while on bottom, wear a bottom condom!

Sex 411: Butt What?

  • Bottom/Bottoming – Receiver during anal sex
  • Top/Topping – Penetrating partner
  • Pegging – anal penetration of a male by a female
  • Rimming – Oral stimulation of the sphincter & surrounding areas
  • Santorum – Lube plus feces plus ejaculate byproduct of anal sex

Send Ross and Jo your questions and comments at buzzdoinitwell@yahoo.com

Posted by Jo Sanger & Ross Wantland in 14:39:02
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